From the beginning, from the very first article, my AC content has always been more geared towards relating my own personal experiences. Though not the most popular content, my articles have always received good, well-intentioned comments.
This month, I decided to go out on a limb and get more personal than I’ve ever been, and more present tense as well. I started out writing an article “When Your Husband’s Affair Results in a Child” that recounted my experience after one of my husband’s affairs. Knowing that this would leave my reader with questions as to why I would stay after such a thing, I wrote “Why I Stayed After My Husband’s Multiple Affairs.”
After my past experiences with my articles, I was not prepared for the comment I found on the latter article this weekend. Laura says, “Sounds very trailor-trashie. I guess your two lives have just been one big orgy and swing-fest.” Now, I will not even get into the spelling/grammer issues I have with this comment, but I will admit to willingly leaving the comment on article, along with a few comments back to her.
Yet, the more I think about it, the more I realize just how ignorant some people can be. First of all, why does living in trailer make one trash? I have lived in trailer parks off and on throughout my life (not always by choice), but now live in a beautiful $100,000 house with a 3/4 acre lot. I drive an average looking vehicle and, to look at me, you would never know I ever lived in a trailer.
Then, I wondered how long people are willing to hold past indiscretions against others. I personally think it is more commendable to admit your past and wrongdoings than to attempt a cover-up. You cannot move forward in life until you let go of your past. I really hate to see this person comment on some of my other past mistakes.
I am assuming that a big part of this reader’s basis for her comment was my admitting that my ex-husband and I had both cheated on one another, noting that I had been on both sides of the fence with affairs. I did not feel it relevant to the article to note that I was 18 when all of that happened and that it was a very important learning lesson in my life.
I just wish that people could accept that even those with morals, values, and common sense make mistakes too. I have received many more comments stating that they commend me for being such a “strong” woman. I do not always feel strong, but also do not feel right running out to file for divorce like 60% of other Americans do on a daily basis. I want a marriage for life and if that means that I have to woman enough to accept my husband’s PAST mistakes and forgive, then so be it. I will not be another divorce statistic.